Yes, I'm a Woman

Oh yeah, that's me!

Okay, I have to admit, I was raised like a boy. I was bought track suits instead of frocks and sneakers instead of sandals. And as I grew up, my friends frequently told me that I was tomboyish. Little did I know what it meant then. What girl would want to befriend someone with whom they could not enjoy sharing about their new dresses or someone who wouldn’t compliment about the color of their nail polish? It was not that I wasn’t interested, but I had some other better interests. So this listed only few people into my friends circle too. I was literally raised by my grandma and my playmates were my older cousins who always watched and played wrestling and cricket. The only time I put on makeup, even now, is when I take part in dance competitions. My mum still doesn’t put on any makeup, which is why most of my friends are bewildered when I tell them that we’ve got absolutely no lipstick at home. Lol, I swear we still don’t have one and none of us have had any interest in bringing in one yet. Well, I can’t assure you about my kid sister who is one heck of a girly girl. I’ve loved the way I’ve lived my life so far. Of course, my friends tease me sometimes saying I should get myself checked. But, hey, I’m sure I’m a girl and no one can be surer than me. I get butterflies in my belly at the sight of cute guys (No, not at cute girls, if you ask, lol) and puhleez even if someone does get me checked, XX is what you’ll find in the chromosomes. :p

Then I had a very recent incident when someone freaked when I called that person ‘woman’. Okay I was wrong. It was totally inappropriate to call someone ‘woman’ when they’re actually ‘man’. And no, it was not in a bad way. I just said that the person was a little woman like, by the ways he handled his emotions and also made perfect plans like a girl would do. But seriously, is being a woman so bad that people start condemning you for calling you one. No, really, if someone called me ‘man’, I’d just laugh about it because I know I’m a woman and I don’t need to prove it to anyone else. So why do men freak when they’re compared with women?

“Chya, kasto keti jasto royeko!”

Raise your hands, who hasn't heard people quote this? Well, I see no hands. Hello, big guy there, EVERYONE cries!!

I’m studying, I think, the most feminist subject of our country. And with the commencement of junior year, I think I've developed a little more feminism than before. You know, being around mothers and children, it transfers you the vibe. And recently, we had our posting in FPAN (Family Planning Association of Nepal) and we were watching contraceptive implant being taken out and a new one being placed instead and despite the anesthesia, the woman was in pain and we girls were exchanging looks of telepathy, “It’s so difficult being a woman in a male dominated society”. No, really! I’m not someone who can talk about someone’s contraceptive preferences but despite the easy availability of male contraceptives, it was always woman who was sent for the amour. Lol. We saw no male client during our 3 days posting. And this is just one simple example of how females are treated as pawns in the chessboard of life. And how my friends tell me about their experiences in the labor room, how I've seen mothers not take a wink of sleep to nourish her baby. I wonder if we could exchange our roles sometimes, how the male chauvinists would manage to keep up with the nature. Yes, I’m looking at you big guy, who doesn’t cry like a girl, who doesn't like being compared to a woman, yes, you, how would you manage to balance the nature? I’m sure you’d be begging us to revert the roles by the end of the day. I’m not someone who has experienced the hardships of a real woman yet, but at least I know the world is not so easy being a female, but we've done so good so far. Also explained by my favorite quote, by I don’t know who but some wise head:

“The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world”.

Wise Emma and her thoughts

                                                                                            Well I’m not a female activist or I don’t know what they call someone who raises voices for women. Neither am I here to debate the superiority of the either gender nor does my advocating here changes anything in our society.  But I’m a woman and I absolutely can’t stand being held down just because I’m one. It’s surprising how guys, when they date more than one girl, are cheered as hero in his circle while if a girl opens up, she’s called, I’m sorry due to the lack of appropriate words, a whore.  And what’s even more surprising is that these rumors are spread by the same community of women while the male population gets to stay back and enjoy the show. It’s heart-rending how we hear news about rapes and rapists being set free frequently. We’re not safe and we’re not respected in the world that we created ourselves.

And to whom it may concern, the one who feels taken down by being compared to a woman, well god bless you because you’re not lucky enough to be born a woman. 

At last, I leave you with these two beautifully made powerful videos. Must watch, if you haven't already!! :')